Serious and mature answers please? - can pins and needles feeling disappear
I am a single mother of 34 years. My daughter is 10 years old. I had been divorced for over four years and had moved to live with my mother when I divorced. My ex-husband was violent and was arrested several times on these accounts. And now, after the divorce of her disappearance. Some people who called me said he could also have left the country. I not only support a child. Could't help me with this Act. My main problem is the following. I want to be independent, but I can not leave because the rent is so high that according to my calculations, I dollars, maybe fifty or more after all the costs for rent, food, and left all the costs for the month. My mother is a different story. It is very critical of me and I feel the power that he abused me. He criticized the way I live my life, my daughter. I am constantly with needles with her. I listened to the preparation of food in the kitchen that we share, because he thinks that I am not clean enough, and after preparing food that will attract allThings they do in terms of a disaster. Sometimes I find it intolerable. My most fervent wish is away from everything. But then I think in the fifties, save money and then forced myself to grin and bear. I thought maybe together with a roommate. But I do not see how to solve my problem. My question is: Should I risk it and get my own place? I have never in my life, my own house and I am 34 years old. Sometimes I wonder what an example that I will make my own 10 years ago. I'm afraid.
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Saturday, January 30, 2010
Can Pins And Needles Feeling Disappear Serious And Mature Answers Please?
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There are always cheaper place to live and better jobs. It appears that you have been in a series of abusive relationships ... First to his ex now his mother. No wonder you sad and depressed.
Since there is a calendar, the first thing to do is go to places to live. If you do not buy a house, look at apartments. If possible, for things like food stamps or WIC, Section 8 housing question, etc. If you are also looking for a new job that pays more or start to increase around your current job request. It is frightening to do, but you will feel powerful when you get what you want! Finally, having someone jump on the tracks of your ex. It is easy to support, and if they do, they can garnish your wages, take their tax refunds, etc. It must be somewhere, and you have to take care of their responsibilities.
He will look good for his daughter to the care of you .... a good example. Good luck ... You can!
I know it's a difficult situation! I am inclined to say that the leap of faith ... But the good news is that you are forced, at some point you have to use this time to let things be properly planned. Make sure all options are available .... that are a single parent, you will follow for the public funding for many programs into consideration ... and while you are working in law, be able to use these programs. They have programs for child care (if you're with someone after school or during summer) and food aid.
You also need a list of all your expenses .... Call shop around and try to sort ... For example, on your car insurance ... a lower interest rate and the change up some money ... . If you have cable or a phone number ... examines the rental charges are saving a little more. You can also use your power company and sign up to the standard settlement ... These Wil keep your electric bill at a steady pace and will not be surprised by an electric bill higher than normal. Check around the flatsNear you ... there are many in my area, which includes all services for rent .... and it may be cheaper than a house ... and still be you and your daughter .... A house is what you make of it .... and I think that's great if the two would go on your own!
so wat u can do is tell your mother how you feel undersatnd U Wil May.
It is not necessary to ask what kind of example, the setting for her daughter. Looks like you're doing a good job, the circumstances under
Sorry for your situation, but keep your head, things are better. Tell your daughter that things sometimes do not work as you want, whenever you want. Show him how to persevere and solve problems rather than away from them.
It sounds to talk as if the mother and her need to sit down and a good heart to heart. Tell her some things that you worry about how you treat them. Do not try to make a gripe long term, will probably ask you rely on. Instead of asking how things like the two of us, the better things. Or something like that.
As her ex-husband in question should be in a position to assist him in law to pay child when you came. Call 1-800-the-dogs, and ask them. They are lawyers who specialize in such things. Frankle Frankle & Its Atys. in the law. I hear their ads here in Dallas for a while.
How to MFeelings of you is not clean enough, you should respect that is their home, and she eats the food too. Some people have strange things around them. Questions, which can purify yourself, perhaps. When they see you try, maybe we'll try.
I hope your condition improves, but the spirit, everything is better for you.
Good luck.
Stevo.
You have some options. Since you have lived with his mother, you have more money, but at a high price. Most states \\ \\ \\ \\ \\ \\ \\ \\ u0026lt, have programs that help people to be homeowners, and help with closing costs. Furthermore, in a house, and then another roommate is the right way. Because they share shall take the housemates on their mortgage payment and not in another pocket. You need to go to a website www.roommates.com Registration is free and with people who get the matched your search criteria. The problem I have is the right home. You must obtain prior approval before they get to see, they will tell you what price range you can afford his wages. Then check out a broker who can help you find what you want specifically. All this takes time, I look at and ask the grace to hold everything until it comes into existence.
But I say it with the situation of the mother and ... Grin and Bear it ... It's not your fault if anythign ever happened in the past, went to his earlier conviction.
Make sure you have your 10-year-old daughter knows that everything is all right and good.
Waiting for a good oppurtunity DONT go and try to live on their own with an additional $ 50 if your mother is ready to help, too. If not, you can always find another job or a good oppurtunity for a stable monetary income.
That's all I can say. I hope that everything goes well ....
I was supporting a single mother with a child, but luckily I had plenty of help from my mother and grandparents. Just really sucks $ 50.00. I know that many times only to pay wages, and it is also difficult. Honsetly But I think if it as bad as I would be good to my mother that I was Misser over $ 50.00. At least he was her own person. You feel proud that you are doing to themselves. If this is not possible, but I also recommend that you go to school. There are things you can do to make good money with only 2 years. Health and social care is good, ultrasound and radiology technologist to start them all at least $ 23.00 per hour (Texas) and pay up to $ 35.00 and higher. Good luck and talk to God about it. He hears and show you the path. In addition, you are there to show her daughter, as a strong woman! You can do it.
The house payment should not exceed 25 percent of income.
If so, then perhaps you should revise the budget and see if there are places that should be cut. If you these numbers in your head right, then down. Make a budget. You'll be surprised what you find.
If more than 25 percent of their income then do not buy it.
$ 50 on the left side is only inviting a visit from Murphy. So what you do.
This is what I propose:
1. Write your budget.
2. Save $ 1000 on an emergency fund.
3. Attacking the largest to the smallest accounts.
In that order. This is set the example that you want for his 10 years. Financially liable.
How do you through these steps, you will find less stress in your life and maybe his mother did not seem intense. While her mother gives her a kiss. Let him know you appreciate their holidays there.
They seem to know what to do. It is now at a point in your life where you have to do what they do.
Get a house! If you have problems, too bad! Most of the people. To change in a few weeks to grow their confidence and self esteem. I promise!
I understand the fear. I have children, and I'm divorced, my ex was and is violent to me and my children. The judiciary has little to help.
I try to have some compassion for me, I just wanted you to know I have some experience.
Sometimes I wish my ex to leave the country or simply disappear. It torments us emotionally and financially.
You have the power to change your life, we all do. I know there are many problems that seem too big. They are a good example for her daughter as a loving mother. Sorry for your problems with your mother seems to be difficult to control (you can not change), it comes from May to try to help his way. I encourage you to go all the options, explore home. The trust that you will get to be enormous, and luckily for you to catch your mother if you fall. You are her daughters hero, respect him more than I'm sure they have not, if it is to achieve its original goal, even if your new home is not perfect. Good luck to meU and your family to realize your dream.
I understand the fear. I have children, and I'm divorced, my ex was and is violent to me and my children. The judiciary has little to help.
I try to have some compassion for me, I just wanted you to know I have some experience.
Sometimes I wish my ex to leave the country or simply disappear. It torments us emotionally and financially.
You have the power to change your life, we all do. I know there are many problems that seem too big. They are a good example for her daughter as a loving mother. Sorry for your problems with your mother seems to be difficult to control (you can not change), it comes from May to try to help his way. I encourage you to go all the options, explore home. The trust that you will get to be enormous, and luckily for you to catch your mother if you fall. You are her daughters hero, respect him more than I'm sure they have not, if it is to achieve its original goal, even if your new home is not perfect. Good luck to meU and your family to realize your dream.
I think it would be nice to have your own place. His mother insists that he had highlighted his round without a doubt that her daughter was. They are) much quieter (and safer when they are in, and I think your daughter will see this and be happier and maybe even they now more (this point is probably more) to his grandmother.
I know this is a great step ... Remember to check all available resources for financial aid, and not too proud to help ...
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